Monday, 4 January 2016

Ready or not...2016!

Ready or Not... 2016 is here!

At the beginning of each year I'm usually pumped up, roaring and ready to go, full of energy and great ideas. This year - not so much.

Could it be that I'm getting older and less excited by the new year when I look at the mountain of tasks that I have set for myself this year? 

Breathe, I tell myself. Just breathe...

The truth is that 2015 was a good year for me, despite my mom's passing. It was a blessed year filled with lots of traveling, networking, business opportunities and growth in every area of my life. 2016 is poised to be even better as my growth takes flight to bigger, better, higher, brighter and more prosperous things.

Why then am I so discombobulated and unexcited? Frankly, my calendar looks no less full than last year's.

Could it be then that I am overwhelmed because I am looking at the whole picture in one sitting rather than taking it a little at a time? Perhaps that's exactly the problem. So here's what I'm going to do and what you too may wish to do, if you are as overwhelmed as I am.

  • Spend more time praying and meditating and less time on Facebook
  • Take life one day at a time. One event at a time, One task at a time.
  • Organize. Be efficient with time and resources. 
  • Plan time to relax and take it easy
  • Ignore the blinking light on the phone every now and then
  • Say NO when its appropriate to do so
  • And be OK if it simply doesn't get done this year!!!!
Here's wishing you all the best for 2016! May you learn to love more, laugh more, forgive more, relax more and be at peace.

"So don't worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today's trouble is enough for today." Mathew 6:34 (New Living Translation)



Monday, 28 December 2015

Christmas in a Cloud - Still fun!

Our family had a wonderful time! We had an endless supply of good food, Christmas presents, everything from wine to water, big screen movie, Karaoke night, playing Mafia, watching sports and zip lining.  All 28 of us! Let’s face it – the Clarke/Wint posse knows how to do Christmas!

Nevertheless, grief hung just below the surface like a dark cloud. 
The first Christmas withOUT mom.

I salute the many families who “made it through Christmas” despite loss of loved ones, tornadoes that ripped apart lives and homes, flood waters that soaked treasured memories and other tragedies that dampened the joys of living.

In my younger days, Martina McBride reminded the world that no-one ever promised that life would be a Rose Garden. The lyrics below is my reminder to us all that sunshine and rain are both needed to make flowers grow. And so it is with us. Good times and bad times are but a part of the fabric of our lives. So let’s give thanks for the good times and make the best we can of the bad times knowing that even those times are milestones on the walkway of life. And that, amidst it all, life can still be beautiful.


Monday, 7 December 2015

Beating the Holiday Blues!

Aaah Christmas! The most wonderful time of the year. But for too many people the holidays brings on the blues.

Somewhere between missing loved ones who have transitioned to another dimension or separated by distance and the hustle brought on by the holidays, there are many of us who suffer from the holiday blues. May I make a few suggestions to help you or someone you know get through the holidays with at least some measure of joy.

Avoid the avoidable

Time & Seasons: A Layman's guide 
to Overcoming Adversity
Spend time with friends and family who make your life better! Those who make you laugh or at the very least, do not pressure you into "feeling the holiday spirit." If your regular everyday spirit is good then is there really a need to "feel the holiday spirit?" Avoid people who are going to pressure you, annoy you, tick you off or make you feel bad about yourself.  Now, let's not get it twisted. I didn't say lock yourself away from everyone and wallow in depression - I said avoid the avoidable!  

Take care of you

Its the season of giving and good cheer. And with that we are coerced into giving to every charity and cause - not to mention Christmas gifts. There's nothing wrong with that BUT in all the giving, remember to give to yourself! YOU! It's not popular, its seen as selfish - I know. But balance is important to dealing with the holidays. YOU are important too. So while you consider what giving you will do DON"T FORGET YOURSELF!

Flip the Script

Flip the script on your memories and feelings. Christmas was my dad's time of year. Every Christmas I miss him just as much as the last. This year my mom transitioned. I'll miss her too this year. BUT instead of wallowing in sorrow I am determined to use the memories as healing tool. Sharing pictures and memories that remind me of the blessings they were in my life and focus on how grateful I should be that they existed at all. If you can dig deep, you too can flip the script on your sorrow and see your memories are blessings. My mom had Alzheimers - she traveled the world and in the end had no memory of her life. THANK GOD YOU HAVE MEMORIES!

So, the holidays are upon us. TV ads, traffic pile ups, lights and Santa Claus! You can get through it. You may even get through it with a smile if you can take the serenity prayer to heart:
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change - you can't change Christmas - it's here to stay.
The courage to change the things I can - you can change your attitude and how you deal with it.
And the wisdom to know the difference. 



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Monday, 9 November 2015

Monday Morning Blues? Take FIVE!

...forgot to pray this morning
man I forgot to pray
just like I forgot to pay my credit card bill...
excerpt from Racing 

As I sit comfortably on my bed in another hotel room on another Monday morning on another island, I reflect on the busyness of my life. I look around me and suddenly realize that a poem I wrote long ago is as relevant today as it was then. I have been RACING!

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My calendar reads like a business mogul making 10 figures while my bank account works its way in the opposite direction. I have lost all sense of balance and peace. I left it behind when I chose, yes chose, to say yes to more than I should; when I dismissed the little voice in my head telling me that the world wouldn't end if I slowed down. 

There was a time I meditated, relaxed, walked on the beach, stayed long after the sun set and simply did nothing. A time I read my Bible, my daily devotions and spent quality time with God - speaking and listening. Now it seems I only speak! And barely.

A dear friend of mine, who has known me since I was a child and who I have admired all my life, reminded me last night that in all I do I must remember to keep God at the forefront. That the Master should be the central focus. I thought I had been doing that until she said it and the light bulb came on. 

And so it is with great humility that I begin, once again, to center myself. Once again to work towards doing as I have written - do my Monday Morning Meditations. There is no doubt that it sets the tone for the rest of my week. 

Are you flustered today? Are the Monday Morning Blues singing your tune? 

Does your week ahead look so busy that you're tired just thinking about it? If you answered YES, like I did, then its time to take 5. Stop, breathe and spend some time in meditation. The 15 minutes you "lose" by stopping and centering yourself will make you better able to deal with the next 10,065 minutes of your week. 


If you are not familiar with my poem Racing, read, absorb and make a change!